Feelings escalate quickly — small triggers land like big ones.
Pick one to try tomorrow. Small changes, consistently applied, move the dial more than any single intervention.
Give the feeling a word out loud — 'that felt unfair' — so the child doesn't have to. Naming lowers the intensity.
Nothing productive happens mid-storm. Offer calm presence, a quiet corner, or a shared breath before any conversation.
Plan what to do next time when everything is fine — not when it's already too late.
Log what happened just before. Triggers are almost always predictable once you look — and prevention beats repair.
Big feelings in a small body are not bad behaviour — they're overwhelm. Your calm is the ceiling their calm reaches for.
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